Dearly beloved, our company is obtained here today to make it through this thing called⦠a period finale! Yes, it’s correct, present occurrence signifies the termination of absolutely the blockbuster that was S2 of
Wait, Is It A Night Out Together?
In order to commemorate that closing, which more straightforward to come-on and discuss the joys and achievements of a long length crush, than star and queer individual Elise Bauman? You may acknowledge Elise from life’s delightful queer Christmas time rom-com that come
Underneath The Christmas Time Tree
,
but around these components, she’s another name that will be nearly as vaunted: Drew’s girlfriend! Yes, that’s right, this sparkling twosome ended up being birthed through the great queer heritage: the cross country crush.
Exactly what is-it in regards to the long distance crush which thus appealing to queers worldwide? Is it the comparative scarceness of like-minded queers close to you? even the power to flirt cross country takes many of the stress down? The three people enter everything, AND Drew and Elise share some perhaps as well sweet factual statements about their unique relationship!
Not to mention there can be a game title! Recently, we make Drew play the video game that simply got more than Twitter and Tiktok for a few momentary days: “They can be a 10 but⦔ its a good time, all over!
SHOW NOTES
+ Follow Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!
+
Browse Drew’s interview with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ Enjoy
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it nonetheless rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s thighs tend to be⦠certainly very compelling!
+ may Shortz is certainly the name of NYT Crossword Editor!
*the much more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: after which we had gotten off the phone, immediately after which both of us hopped on the telephone two moments afterwards we are like, “and so the border is actually closed, we’re legitimately banned to truly get throughout the line.”
Christina
: i am talking about, leading among one of my favorite vocals memos and even messages I got from Drew, I can’t keep in mind which kind it came in, it absolutely was want, “we made this plan of action and then the edges tend to be closed.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it absolutely was a real second.
[theme song plays]
Drew
: Hi, I’m Drew.
Christina
: And I’m Christina.
Drew
: And this is
Hold Off, Is It A Night Out Together?
Christina
:
Hold Off, Is It A Date?
is actually an Autostraddle podcast delivered by me obtaining the giggles, and the concern this is certainly on everyone’s lip area, wait, was actually this a date?
Drew
: we are at the conclusion of the next season, and that I think we solved it, i do believe.
Christina
: Yeah, i believe I’m simply getting big finale power, like whenever comedies used to be in front of a studio market, and every person would walk-in there was actually an hour of applause because it was actually like, oahu is the finally, that is how I’m experiencing. Though to get clear, no body provides applauded me personally however, hateful. Many thanks, thank you so much. Now I feel liked and used. Drew, who will be you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about this part.
Christina
: Yeah, proper?
Drew:
Possibly season three we’ll have the intros. I’m Drew Gregory, i’m an author for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans woman. Guess what happens, In my opinion whenever we perform another season I want to have a great one I throw-in right at the end.
Christina
: Ooh, anything spicy, you should jazz it up?
Drew
: Yeah, There isn’t something today however.
Christina
: Okay, leave them wanting more, I think that’s great.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: i’m Christina Tucker, i’m also an author at Autostraddle, therefore the internet most importantly. A podcaster, a gay Black lady, and a person who’s sensation rather flashy here with this mid-day.
Drew
: Great, I’m actually grateful you are jazzy and I’m spicy, or at least I’m planning for the possibility that someday I’ll be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you are like, I’m not sure, the first 1 / 2 of the movie Dune, the spice can come. Cool guide, ladies, she is single. Anyway, i actually do have a casino game for people to tackle about hollowed day of our very own finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: This is the traditional, by traditional What I’m Saying Is a casino game that overran the internet and TikTok for 2-3 weeks, “They May Be a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, fantastic.
Christina
: today Drew, I’m going to set-out some soil principles individually, because i am aware you adore a follow-up question.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: When I say they are a 10, they may be a 10 to you by any means that matters for you, which can be literally, that would be emotionally, this is simply an individual you’re feeling is actually a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, fine, many thanks.
Christina
: i really do not have any scenarios for what otherwise you within person have been carrying out inside matchmaking existence, you’re only gonna have to go along with your instinct and determine.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: okay?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: We’re going to put in which make that clear, here we get. They may be a 10, nonetheless clap if the jet countries.
Drew
: i felt like everyone was as well remarkable with this specific, where it really is like they may be a 10 and therefore thing means they are visit a-two, come on.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: and so i’m probably still give a fairly ample eight.
Christina
: Yeah, i do believe that is fair. I do believe eight is the correct amount of cringe removing for that little activity. Okay, that is a good begin. Okay, they can be a nine even so they never ever text you first.
Drew
: and that I cannot ask follow through questions?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: thus I can not ask, well do they content myself back when we text? I’d say a five.
Christina
: Yeah, perhaps not texting basic ever, which is crude.
Drew
: Actually ever is strange.
Christina
: which is rough things. Fine, they’re a five nonetheless drive one to every errand that you have ever endured to perform.
Drew
: that is really nice, but i possibly could always⦠If there are five, I’ll offer him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But I know you adore an unicamente jaunt anyhow, you love an errand run.
Drew
:after all now my girlfriend Elise did drive us to an errand, and I also was very grateful, but if which was the single thing she performed we’dn’t maintain a connection, that has been just an additional bit nice bonus.
Christina
: i believe that’s reasonable.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: All right, they might be a seven but they only pretend to learn your work.
Drew
: understand element of that that bothers me may be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, I understood it would be.
Drew
: it is not the maybe not checking out it. As long as they did not review my work it is like, I am not that, I’d end up being somewhat, it’s like never ever? But it’s great, i really could overcome it. But they lie to me about that is really what’s weird if you ask me, so thatshould go-down to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, appropriate, correct. They’ve been a three nonetheless have access to the criterion wardrobe.
Drew
: And do I get you to definitely get?
Christina
: and you also get accessibility, you benefit from that access, yes.
Drew
: i possibly could have an excellent fling thereupon six.
Christina
: i believe you could potentially. It had been a three, but yeah, you’re slamming it to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that’s what I’m saying, i am slamming it up to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. I like that. They are an eight but all of their friends are right.
Drew
: Okay, there was clearly some discourse about that, because i believe there was clearly a you’ll need help. I think I possibly was regarding opposing side on most for the Autostraddle group which said that truly fine to simply have right pals. I would like to point out that truly okay, it’s simply perhaps not the life span I lead. All directly pals, that will visit a two.
Christina
: Yeah, I’m going to need certainly to go along with you thereon one, I would personally merely think it is somewhat troubling, perplexing.
Drew
: All direct buddies?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: If they’re a new comer to queerness and are attempting to fulfill a lot more queer people, that’s distinct from if they’re a recognised period queer that is want, guess what happens? I love becoming usually the one lesbian in my own buddy group of straight men and women.
Christina
: Yeah, i might feel the same manner if it was actually an Ebony one who ended up being like, “There isn’t any Ebony friends,” i might end up like, “what are you doing there?” Internally.
Drew
: We’re not in a network sitcom, we cannot have a token person.
Christina
: you should not function as the token, you don’t have to do that to yourself. Okay, we three more. They’re a seven however they spend-all their own free-time at the gym, continuously weight lifting top to bottom. I’m not sure what individuals would at the gym.
Drew
: their free-time. I suppose this will depend on which matters as free-time. We’ll say a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: we’ll bump all of them down two.
Christina
: Bump all of them down.
Drew
: but that is good. I guess it depends mostly for me personally, that we’m perhaps not asking a take question, i am following five, but it is dependent to me what counts as free time.
Christina
: Sure.
Drew
: Can we view flicks collectively, or head out for eating, is free-time? Is certainly not operate time sparetime, or perhaps is it just like when we lack other pursuits?
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Christina
: we notice you, we hear you.
Drew
: But we’ll stay with five.
Christina
: All right. They are six, but their mother is actually hotter than they are.
Drew
: Oh, I don’t know to increase or down.
Christina
: I’m sure, correct?
Drew
: I really don’t think i really could actually ever date some one for their⦠It’s like basically’m maybe not keen on some one in the first place, I’m perhaps not likely to be matchmaking them.
Christina
: Correct.
Drew
: I am not will be want, really, they could turn into their particular hot mother. I think I would declare that they truly are still a six, I’m only attending maybe not refer to them as and that I’m planning to contact their mom.
Christina
: Yeah, I feel enjoy it’s as you remain the same, but possibly we spend time with you some more than I would personally so as-
Drew
: That’s a good point.
Christina
: receive some mother time. Really don’t imagine you change.
Drew
: I did some thing really terrible that I however feel terribly when it comes to, which will be that someone requested myself out, and this also ended up being while I was a student in school, and I also had not been curious, therefore I was obvious about that, I happened to be clear I happened to ben’t curious. But then she planned to be friends, and I also could tell that she said she wanted to end up being buddies however it ended up being coming from spot-
Christina
: She had been wanting.
Drew
: Yeah. Although thing usually most of the woman pals happened to be really hot and cool, I really performed stayed the woman pal to be able to go out together buddies. I did not lie about my objectives normally, nonetheless it nevertheless wasn’t the nicest thing I did as a 20 year-old.
Christina
: What i’m saying is regrettably it simply reminds me personally of the episode of
Sex as well as the City
in which Carrie’s relationship, in my opinion it really is Justin Theroux, and he sucks, but his household rocks, and she is like, i could do this for a little. I am like, yeah, completely, exactly who could not.
Drew
: Carrie was not attempting to hook-up with his household, the difference, you know very well what? It really is great, we’re all good.
Christina
: A hookup will appear like everything, I’m always proclaiming that.
Drew
: That’s an extremely great point.
Christina
: the last one, is a three but has a coastline home.
Drew
: i am planning to say an annoying phrase, but we went to NYU.
Christina
: Horrible to express.
Drew
: a thing that sucks about me personally, which this is attending appear to be a modest boast, since it is actually probably good figure attribute, it sucks as someone checking out the globe. I went along to a school which is filled with wealthy those who have all kinds of amazing coastline residences, and all of these other activities, and that I only turned into pals with folks who were indeed there on scholarships. Not just, but mostly, we definitely, I didn’t it’s the perfect time with folks who’d beach houses.
Christina
: You didn’t use.
Drew
: Yeah, I really think if they’re a three even so they have actually a coastline house, they’re most likely a-two. The very fact⦠I am not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you only cannot generate that step to work with the ill coastline house moment.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what i am truly wanting is that my pals that fairly down to earth, good men and women, many of them are just attending continue steadily to have that new money following get coastline residences, and i’m going to be in a position to spend time using my fantastic pals and stay at a beach house. That is the fantasy where i possibly could get the coastline home.
Christina
: that is the dream at the end of your day, its new money and a beach household, that’s all we’re selecting. You heard it here initial people.
Drew
: i really like brand new money.
Christina
: Love brand new money.
Drew
: Love brand-new money. Yeah, that has been a delight. I would actually, I would really already been willing to perform that video game because it was a thing on TikTok, thus thank you for making my personal aspirations come true.
Christina
: I imagined it could be a great someone to carry out, and it also was actually very enjoyable to create them.
Drew
: Well, should we proceed to all of our main portion of week, basically slipping for folks who live-in some other cities. In fact it is unique of long-distance relationships, because long distance relationships will start well into a connection, capable keep on into a connection, this is basically the need that queer people have to consider their own destination that they stay and go, no, I’m not browsing flirt with your folks, I’m going to embark on instagram.com and find someone who resides really miles away. And in addition we have a, I know we always state an extremely unique visitor, but for me personally this will be a really special visitor. Would you like to introduce your self?
Elise
: I would personally want to introduce me. Was we the special visitor?
Drew
: you may be, yes.
Christina
: kid, however.
Elise
: Great, wow, incredible. I’m Elise Bauman, i am an actor, I’m a queer individual, and I also’m here now because i am sleeping with the hosts.
Christina
: imagine which one?
Elise
: Yeah, all of those other podcast is only the market attempting decipher which host i am asleep with. I really like that, it is like a murder mystery but-
Christina
: there is no method to know.
Elise
: there’s really no method to understand. Yeah, does this generate myself a nepotism child? Is the fact that the industry works.
Christina
: Yes, that’s the sector really works, babe.
Elise
: kind, good.
Christina
: this is certainly it.
Elise
: Wow, possibly i possibly could get a profession out of this.
Christina
: Fingers crossed for you personally.
Elise
: Nepo baby to career, wow, great. I always wanted to end up being a nepo baby.
Christina
: I’m thus happy.
Drew
: Yeah, I found myself just going to point out that for folks who have no idea, really now I’m damaging the murder mystery from it all, but Elise and that I are located in an union, and performed start matchmaking during the pandemic, and Elise stays in Toronto, and I also reside in Los Angeles, which have been indeed various cities, and they are indeed in various countries.
Elise
: These are typically indeed, they’ve been certainly.
Christina
: And Drew, not to imply that you went against yours abdomen, but i really do feel as if you might be typically a person who states, why bother with a long length time? There are folks the following I am able to date, how come this to yourself? You are sure that it’s going to be difficult, you are sure that it will likely be hard, exactly why do this? However here you will be.
Drew
: See, that is interesting, because personally i think like i liked for a small amount of both, I just believe i did not grab the long-distance people maybe as seriously.
Christina
: possibly that’s all, yeah.
Drew
: But i usually loved a long length flirt.
Christina
: True.
Drew
: And so I believe this simply held heading. Once we started-
Elise
: and so the answer, Drew, wasn’t that I was merely amazing plus it was personal in my experience, and this had been extremely certain for me that I found myself just amazingly attractive which means you simply broke your policies and you stated, “i must have that certain.”
Drew
: i am talking about it’s type of the clear answer in an extended sense. In the sense this only held happening. And our good friends associated with pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, who I used to live with, as some of you may already know, i might often be like, I would be attempting to date folks during pandemic in la therefore the surrounding areas of L. A.. And they would create fun of me personally because I would personally occasionally just be love, “What i’m saying is, I could just attempt to date Elise Bauman.” I found myself always, “i am talking about, {this person|this i
